My last two blogs are trackbacks, I just thought I'd go back a bit, so Maanu, pls don't wonder what's happening okay? I tracked back to this blog due to Shine's meaningful comments. I totally agree with what Shine said, I thought that was a pretty good assessment of life!
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Why We Are All Selfish and Why We Should Be

Okay, I know the heading looks set to spark off controversy. It's just that I told some of my friends last night that we are all selfish, much to everyones indignation! 'How could you call us all selfish'? 'Are we all selfish?, no way' were some of the responses I got.

firstly I was very tired and groggy last night, and secondly recent experiences in my life have just highlighted that fact a tad more. Here's why I say we are all selfish, even when we seem selfless in our acts.

We talk about love being unselfish, but maybe we keep our loved ones happy, because that will make certain they stay with us. Happy couples last longer, stay longer as couples and we need our partners as much as they need us.

We talk about a mother's unconditional love, when it is her own child it holds true more often, but we seemed to be programmed to be that way. A mother has to put herself second to the child, cos the kid's well being is essential for the survival of the species.

A man would happily lay down his life for his wife, maybe because the mother is more essential for the kids upbringing.

We talk about caring for others, for best friends, for pets etc. But the act of caring is as beneficial to the care giver as it is for the cared for. That's why they say it's good for elderly lonely people to own pets, caring for the pets seems to be a health benefit for the owners.

We talk about working together as teams, as friends to achieve things in society. Maybe we do that since working in teams improves the teams chances and thereby our own chance of survival in society.

Selfishness even though it is considered to be a 'un wholesome' characteristic, might well be the most important characteristic for survival. and when it comes down to the crunch, wouldn't you rather be, a person who does everything to preserve yourself and thereby increase your worth to society, than be a selfless fool who perishes early due to the lack of self preservation?

self - family - friends - country - society - world.

Shouldn't that be the logical order of preservation? Just a thought........

 

 

 

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A Civilized World?

My dear friend Maanu, wrote about how this world is full of people who are selfish, and that they never seem to learn from history's mistakes.

Well I totally agree, and for now anyway, I don't think that trend is going to change for a long time. Here's why...............

People have tried to reduce inequality among each other by coming up with methods such as Communism. This was to make sure that wealth and property was equally distributed. No man would be too rich or too poor. Nice concept in theory, but it had one major flaw among many others.

Man is not born with equal talents in the same feild nor identical  psychological make up. Furthermore man would never be motivated to perform or excel if he is never recognized or rewarded for his abilities.

Communism tries to pretend that all are the same in every aspect, but in reality it is not so. Some people are hard working, others aren't, and the list of differences go on........

So the solution seemed to be Capitalism, this gave everyone a chance to excel and do what he or she was really good at. people were then put in charge of their own destinies so to speak. But with it came competiton and selfishness.

We are brought up in a world where you either survive or you don't, it doesnt get more black and white than that! Everything that happened in the past was because of the greed for power and resources.

........................Today the 'set is different, but the script is still the same'.

Hence little Maanu was right, the world is still selfish. And I recon that it would remain that way for some time to come.

They say a mother's love is unselfish and un conditional, but they seem to forget that it's conditional and selfish on the basis that the child has to be her own and that she has 'ownership'.......

Maybe nothing really is unconditional in this world, maybe we're all doomed to be selfish. Just like little Maanu said.